If you find yourself stuck in a sexual rut or facing a dry spell in your relationship, don’t despair. Instead of accepting the status quo, consider taking on a challenge: introduce three new moves into your intimate life each week for a month. The objective? To snap your sex life out of a relationship coma.
According to Yvonne K. Fulbright, the author of “The Better Sex Guide to Extraordinary Lovemaking,” sex can lose its excitement in long-term relationships as it tends to be taken for granted. Single individuals often find excitement in the pursuit itself, while those in relationships may need to inject novelty intentionally.
The Prescription: Planning for Passion
Treat your sex life with the same level of intentionality as planning your weekly meals. Kickstart the process by scheduling intimate encounters for three nights a week, strategically swapping position choices with your partner. To explore new ideas, consider using tools like sex toys.
Verdict from Our Tester: The Power of Planning
One tester reported that the planning sessions were a game-changer. Merely proposing spontaneous new positions might not have made a significant impact, as the positions themselves aren’t inherently transformative. The key lies in dedicating time as a couple to think about and discuss sex. The planning sessions go beyond mere brainstorming; they resemble tantric foreplay.
Engaging in conversations about intimate matters while lounging on the couch or during other relaxed moments enhances the experience. As our tester noted, “It’s a turn-on when your partner suggests something you never thought she’d want to do. Then, having to wait five days builds anticipation, making it even more exciting.”