Men take note of these common mistakes that might hamper your next sexual conquest before it even begins and learn how to avoid them.
Sex Starts In the Bedroom
No, it does not start in the bedroom; in fact you might be aroused by the click of a finger; however it is much more complicated for women.
It is a process, which means you should build it slowly by kissing, hugging and being playful throughout the day. A women needs to feel safe and secure for her to let go in the sheets; a simple hug can do the trick “hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates a sense of connection and trust”, says sex therapist, Ian Kerner.
Labour Under an Assumption
Do not assume that you know what she wants, if you want to know what her likes or dislikes are then do not hesitate to ask her. If lost? Ask for directions, as you do not want her faking it; try questions like “how does this feel?
Ian Kerner says that “Just as many women are faking orgasms today as 20 or 30 years ago, so, if she’s not enjoying herself, you might not know it.”
Foreplay should not just include physical stimulation but also mental stimulation; give her something to think about like a sexy memory or a fantasy; as women think about sex as part of the arousal process. “Some men focus on physical stimulation and often ignore mental stimulation.”
Broaden your idea of foreplay.
Do Not Stick To Your Guns
It is all about paying close attention to your partner try various things and note how she reacts to them. However, just because something worked previously does not mean it will work continuously, so switch it up.
As what arouses her might depend on her mood, and where she is with regards to her monthly cycle. Though when you do find something new that she enjoys, linger on it for a bit as women do complain that men move on to the next thing just as they starting to enjoy it.
You should not expect intercourse to give her an orgasm, as for 80% of women intercourse alone will not do the trick. Why? As, “Most sex positions don’t directly stimulate the clitoris.”
Do not despair; there are other ways to please your partner or a woman, Ian Kerner says, “Women orgasm much more consistently from oral sex than from intercourse.”
To help her along, before you engage in sexual intercourse, build up her arousal as they closer she is to an orgasm, the more likely she is to having one.
Listen to Snoop Dogg; he knows what he is talking about as women love being seduced and sometimes rate that more important than technique.
As mentioned before, it helps knowing what your partner likes and what turns her on the most; visually, mentally or orally?; faint touches or a dirty text?
TIP: If you like what you see let her know, in the words of Snoop “I’m gonna take my timemmime, she gonna get hers before I…I’m gonna take it slow…ow…oo..ow.”
There you have it gentlemen, now you are ready to hit the sheets.
Sources: Web Md