You might think the right moves in bed will make her swoon—and trust us, they will. But you don’t have to be the master of foreplay to get her going (though it certainly doesn’t hurt). In fact, there are lots of random ways to turn a woman on.
Here, 13 women reveal the one thing that always attracts them to a guy—and some of their answers might surprise you.
Turn On #1: Your Hands
“The hand-to-forearm region. Platonic friend driving stick-shift? Oh damn. Stranger playing bass? Take me now. Something about a good looking set of capable hands makes me wonder what else they could get up to.” —Erika, 22
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Turn On #2: Kissing Her Forehead
“It’s such a simple thing, but it feels so intimate since it’s such a gentle gesture. It makes you feel loved and cared for — not just like a slam piece.” — Bri, 22
Turn On #3: Not Trying Too Hard
“One thing that gets me is when my boyfriend gets ready in the morning. He wears nothing but his boxer briefs, they’re fitted to his body, and his hair looks disheveled. He has his glasses on and is still kind of sleepy. I guess in that state, he’s so natural. Nothing’s forced, it’s very raw.” —Heather, 23
Related: 8 Things You Say On First Dates That Guarantee You Won’t Get a Second
Turn On #4: Eye Contact
“Prolonged eye contact, but in a loving way, not in a I-might-kill-you-later way. I know he’s paying attention and cares what I have to say.” —Molly, 22
Be warned, though, there is a limit to how long you can stare at someone before you creep them out.
Turn On #5: Making A Fool Of Yourself
“Dad dance moves: If a guy is down to publicly embarrass himself with some awful dance moves, sign me up. I think it’s cool when a guy toes the line between having himself put together 24/7 around me, and being able to completely let his guard down and be goofy. No one likes someone who takes themselves seriously.” —Holly, 21
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Turn On #6: Dressing To Impress
“I am a huge sucker for a man in a suit, or really a well-dressed man in general—doesn’t have to be a suit. It makes an average guy attractive and an already handsome man a knock-out.” —Sara, 24
Turn On #7: Cardigans
“I love it when the weather gets chilly and guys wear tons of layers. If they wear cardigans, sweaters, scarves, and a beanie I’m a dead woman. I’m attracted to guys who are put together and take control of their lives. I just imagine them carefully putting together their outfit and being proud about looking both fashionable and warm. Also, I wish I could be zipped up in their coat and snuggle.” — Maia, 22
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Turn On #8: Just Being Nice To People
“If a guy is encouraging and uplifting to others, I usually peg him for having a whole host of sexy attributes: He is innately positive, he enjoys his career, he is genuinely interested in and celebrates the success of others… the list is inexhaustible. Bottom line: This guy is happy with himself, and makes the world a better place. Now that’s attractive.” —Rebecca, 29
Turn On #9: Saying All The Right Things
“I love when guys actually listen and make conversation with you without making any sexual advances or being creepy. That’s how I can tell he’s actually interested, and it’s really attractive when a guy can have an intelligent conversation.” —Maddie, 23
Turn On #10: Barry White Baritone
“A deep, husky voice. It makes them seem strong and serious.” — Kerry, 26
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Turn On #11: Playing Handyman
“Fixing something—especially fixing something with your hands, like a broken cabinet door or a dripping tap, or even fixing or removing a virus from my computer. It’s manly, sweet, and super sexy.” —Amy, 32
Turn On #12: Taking It Down A Notch
“A quiet confidence. There’s nothing more grotesque than a guy who’s all out there, showing off a car, his suit, or puffy muscles. But a guy who’s leaning back in the corner, taking in his surroundings, and feels no need to show off… sexy as hell.” —Mariel, 29
Turn On #13: Showing Some Passion
“When a guy speaks intelligently about his passion, I melt. I once asked a guy out on a date after he told me about his congressional letter writing campaign. College was weird, but you get it.” —Erin, 25
