It happens to every guy: you’re in the heat of the moment, and before you know it, it’s over. Maybe it’s something that happens regularly and really bothers you, or maybe you just want a few hacks to help you last long enough during sex to pleasure your partner. We’ve got your back.
Premature ejaculation is defined as uncontrolled ejaculation that occurs sooner than you or your partner want it to, often with very little stimulation, and within less that 1 minute of penetration. It happens to about one third of all guys, and if it’s an occasional thing, it’s nothing to worry about.
But even if you don’t struggle with premature ejaculation, and you just want to make the fun last a bit longer, we’ve collected the best tricks and techniques for to make you last longer in bed.
First, try this exercise: next time you masturbate, don’t think about your orgasm. Focus on her orgasm. Bring yourself to the edge of orgasm, but stop before you come. Then start again. Practice this until you can last 15 minutes without ejaculating.
If you’re overheating during sex, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis, focusing the pressure on the urethra—the tube running along the underside of the penis. This pushes blood out of the penis and momentarily represses the ejaculatory response.
2. Pinpoint Ejaculatory Inevitability
The process of sexual response has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. The trick is to recognise the spectrum of feelings throughout the process. Rate your sexual excitement on a scale of 1 to 10. Try keeping yourself at 7.
A Kegel is an exercise that helps tighten muscles responsible for ejaculatory control. Become familiar with them by cutting off the flow of urine and then starting and stopping it repeatedly. Once you have the exercise down, practice your Kegels anywhere: at your desk, behind the wheel. Tighten your muscles and hold for a count of 10, then release.
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4. Press Don’t Thrust
Press the end of your penis into her clitoral head. Linger in her vaginal entrance, where the most sensitive nerve endings are. When you do have intercourse, focus on small, shallow movements that penetrate the first 2 to 3 inches of her vagina.
5. Show a Little Courtesy
Ladies first, gentlemen—and we’re talking about more than just holding the door open. When you help her have an orgasm first, it relieves you of some of the pressure to please and the psychological anxiety that feeds into premature ejaculation.
6. Ask Your Doctor about Anti-Depressants
A recent study showed that 73 percent of men who suffered from premature ejaculation either were cured or improved after taking 20 milligrams of Prozac a day for a week and 40 mg thereafter.
7. Go For A Second Round
Shrug off an early emission with some extra attention to her arousal (yes, it means staying awake), then getting back in the saddle. Most men last longer in bed the second time around. And the more you practice, the longer that first time will last.
8. Let Her Climb On
When she’s on top, your penis is less stimulated. And ask her to go slowly—long and fast thrusting is hazardous to a man’s endurance.
9. Stop Thinking about Your Orgasm
The area of the brain responsible for triggering orgasm is engaged whether you’re trying to have one or halt one. The more attention you give it, the more likely it is to arrive. Focus on what’s happening now—her silky thighs on your hips, say—and you’ll diffuse pleasure throughout your whole body.