Sex in the shower is one of those ideas that sounds amazing in theory — intimate, adventurous, and the perfect combination of pleasure and practicality. After all, who doesn’t love the idea of killing two birds with one stone? You get to connect with your partner and get clean right after.
But while it might seem like a no-brainer after a couple of drinks or during a spontaneous moment, shower sex comes with its own set of challenges. Slippery floors, awkward angles, and limited grip can make it tricky to pull off. Luckily, sex therapist Dr. Marianne Brandon has some essential tips to make sure your shower rendezvous stays steamy, safe, and satisfying.
Here’s everything you need to know before hopping into the shower with your partner:
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Do’s
- Make foreplay the star of the show.
Shower sex isn’t about long, drawn-out sessions. Instead, focus on foreplay and let the actual sex be a quickie. This reduces the chance of discomfort from awkward positions or standing for too long, and it keeps things fun and lighthearted. - Bring props to protect your knees.
Shower floors aren’t known for being comfortable. Keep hand towels or a bath mat nearby if knees, elbows, or other body parts need padding. A little cushioning can go a long way in avoiding post-shower bruises. - Hand her the showerhead.
If your shower has a detachable head, let her control it first to find the ideal temperature and water pressure. Once it’s set, take over so she can use her hands for other things. Bonus: the showerhead’s gentle flow can be a game-changer for her pleasure. - Try standing rear entry.
Some positions are just easier in the shower, and standing rear entry is one of them. This way, you both stay on your feet, and she can bend over slightly to find the perfect angle. It’s practical, intimate, and avoids the need for complicated balancing acts.
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Don’ts
- Don’t rely on water as a lubricant.
Contrary to what you might think, water isn’t a great lubricant. In fact, it washes away her natural lubrication, which can lead to discomfort. If you’re planning for shower sex, consider keeping a silicone-based lube handy — it’s water-resistant and ideal for these moments. - Avoid soaping up too much.
While lathering each other up might seem sexy, using shower gel on sensitive areas can lead to irritation. Keep the “all-over wash” playful but steer clear of intimate zones with soap. - Don’t use the shower rail for support.
Shower rails aren’t designed to hold your weight, no matter how sturdy they might look. For better balance, spread your feet wide against the tub or shower floor and position yourselves near a corner for extra stability. - Resist the urge to lift her.
Lifting your partner during sex might feel like a scene straight out of a movie, but in reality, the slippery surface of a shower makes it a risky move. Stick to positions where both of you can stay grounded.
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Pro Tips for Making Shower Sex Even Better
- Invest in a non-slip mat.
Safety first! A good-quality non-slip mat can give you both peace of mind while allowing you to focus on each other rather than worrying about losing your balance. - Set the mood with lighting.
Dim the lights or use candles in the bathroom (just keep them away from water). It creates an intimate ambiance that enhances the experience. - Start under warm water.
Standing under a warm stream of water together can be incredibly sensual. Let the heat relax your muscles, and use it as an opportunity to build anticipation before diving into the main event. - Don’t forget aftercare.
Once you’re done, take a moment to enjoy the shower together. Rinse off, lather each other up if you haven’t already, and savor the intimacy of the moment.
