The sex you and your wife had during your last real holiday was probably a whole lot more fun than the everyday sex you have at home.
Maybe it had to do with the novel setting, the lack of responsibilities, or the fact that you started mainlining piña coladas the moment you landed.
But if you and your partner can’t take a weeklong escape to the Cayman Islands, try the following tips to capture that holiday sex feeling right in your own home.
DO IT IN A DIFFERENT ROOM.
What makes hotel sex so hot? Aside from the fact that your neighbours in the next room might hear you, it’s most likely because doing it in a different venue adds variety to your sex life.
“Any time couples try sex in a new place, there’s an adventure element to it,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., author of Sultry Sex Talk to Seduce Your Lover. “Focus on what’s fun about the situation, as this will make the execution easier and have you feeling like you’ve been transported to another place for lovemaking.”
Provide her with some “turndown service” tonight and you might be pleasantly surprised by the results.
TAKE THE KIDS TO GRANDMA’S HOUSE.
A kid-free zone means more time and privacy to explore erogenous zones.
“Take advantage of opportunities to get the kids out of the house so that you can have more privacy,” says Fulbright.
Letting go of the fear of interruption or being overheard allows you to tap into your sexual self in a way you haven’t since before becoming a parent, unleashing an erotic energy that you’ve likely missed, she says.
No relatives nearby? Consider trading off with a fellow parent friend.
RUB HER DOWN.
A massage, whether it’s Swedish, hot stone, or deep tissue, will get you both relaxed and ready for even more intimate touching.
Pampering her gets her in the ‘I deserve this’ mind frame, which will have her owning her sexual desires, says Fulbright.
A massage on your staycation can offer so many benefits to you as lovers and as a couple,” she says.
Take turns playing masseuse, or let the professionals do it—in-home massages provided by companies like Zeel are a surefire aphrodisiac.
SET THE SCENE.
Part of what makes vacation feel so sexy is the ambiance. A few simple things like making some tropical drinks, food to set the mood, and adjusting the lighting with some scented candles can get you both going.
She’ll be flattered that you’re putting in the extra effort to get her in the mood, says Fulbright. At the very least, it will make her feel like you want to forget everything else and just focus on her.
SHOW SOME SKIN.
Holiday sex feels so effortless because we tend to walk around without a lot of clothing on.
“Shedding inhibitions can have you feeling like new lovers again, willing to be daring and indifferent to any restrictions society wants to put on your body or sex life,” says Fulbright.
Plus, seeing each other naked and feeling your body in its natural form can make you feel aroused, she says.